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Victim or Victorious: Tests and Hurdles Make or Break Us

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The tests and hurdles we have encountered in previous years are just that, in the past. Try to learn from each one of them and make the choice to be victorious. Victim or victorious, you decide!

Of course, it is not always that cut and dry but how you approach the hurdles or obstacles throughout your life is within your control and no one else’s. Have you noticed in life that some people seem to embrace the victim role while others dust themselves off after each obstacle and move on? Which of these two types of people do you think would tend to be more successful in their relationships, careers, and general well-being?

I know a bit about tests and hurdles as I encountered a few in my journey to create my family. I am so proud and grateful now, years later, that I persevered to be victorious instead of a victim.

Patrick Brown is a ruined man

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Is it just me or is something fishy going on?  Patrick Brown, the (resigned) leader of the PC party, is a ruined man, regardless of whether he is innocent or guilty. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty?  He has not been my choice to lead the PC party, but I think the whole scandal stinks.  Here’s why:

  • the “victims” remain anonymous
  • who talked  them into coming forward and why did they not go to the police instead of the media?
  • why did they take so long (10 years) to come forward?  Oh right, an election is coming up and a smear campaign is the best way for the Liberal party to deflect from the mess they are in.
  • what was the under aged woman doing in a bar drinking in the first place.  I wasn’t born yesterday, I know it happens, but did Patrick Brown take her there?  No.  Was he drinking?  No.  Did he buy her a drink?  Yes, but is that a crime?  If every male that meets a woman in a bar and buys her a drink is persecuted, the heterosexual orientation is doomed.
  • why did the other woman go to his home? With another male to boot.  Then when in his home agree to go into the bedroom.
  • when she (a bit late in my opinion) said NO, he took her home.  How awful and ungentlemanly. (NOT)

These are just a few of the “facts” that are swirling around this scandal.    Regardless of whether Patrick Brown is guilty or innocent, he is a ruined man.  I feel very sorry for him and any other heterosexual male playing the dating game these days, especially the ones in the public eye.

The Ultimate Price

ultimate price in Ottawa Market
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The headlines read: “two dead, one injured in Ottawa’s Byward Market shootings.” The 43-year-old man that was shot and killed paid the ultimate price believing he was helping his friend.  

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When his friend was shot and wounded after an argument with the gunman, the victim and several other witnesses chased the shooter.  Why would he do this?  No one will ever know what he hoped to accomplish.  

As the details of the tragedy continue to unravel,  the media is quick to point out the victim’s failings.  Nothing, however, has been said about the suspect.

Although the victim had a shady (drug-related) past, I only knew him as the beloved brother of my grandson’s mom.  Why is that?  Because he and his family were trying hard to put that shady past behind them.  He had turned his life around so we (my family) knew him as a loving son, husband, father, brother, uncle, and brother-in-law that would do just about anything for anyone in need.

What the media fails to mention is that no one, nowhere, deserves to be gunned down in cold blood, unless of course they have just shot and killed someone themselves. The fact that some people resort to the use of a gun to settle their arguments sickens, and in this case deeply saddens me.

For the sake of the victim’s shocked, grieving family, I hope the investigation wraps up soon and reveals that the victim’s alcohol-induced actions were confrontational and foolish, but valiant and well-intended. He paid the ultimate price.